Now Specializing in Couples Therapy
Who I work with
I work with Christian couples who feel stuck in repeating patterns of conflict, distance, or misunderstanding — often despite years of effort, prayer, or even prior counseling.
- Many of the couples I see are:
- Emotionally reactive or chronically disconnected
- Recovering from betrayal, breaches of trust, or unresolved resentment
- Struggling with power imbalances, avoidance, or over-functioning
- Spiritually sincere but relationally exhausted
- Tired of surface-level tools that don’t create lasting change
They are not looking for quick fixes or scripted communication techniques.
They are looking for clarity, repair, and transformation grounded in truth.
How my work is different
My approach to couples therapy is integrative, relational, and Christ-centered.
Rather than focusing only on communication skills or symptom relief, we work at the level of:
- Attachment and emotional safety
- Nervous system reactivity and regulation
- Personal responsibility and differentiation
- Character formation and maturity
- Faith-informed meaning, boundaries, and repair
- I help couples understand why they keep repeating the same patterns — and how those patterns are shaped by the brain, attachment history, and spiritual formation — so that change becomes possible, not forced.
Sessions often involve:
- Real-time interruption of destructive cycles
- Clear naming of relational dynamics
- Accountability without shaming
- Compassion without enabling
- Guidance rooted in both clinical wisdom and Christian truth
Faith integration
Faith is not an add-on in this work.
Scripture, Christian anthropology, and spiritual discernment are integrated thoughtfully and responsibly — not as platitudes, but as orienting truths that support maturity, humility, forgiveness, and growth.
This is not “Christian advice-giving,” and it is not generic therapy with a Bible verse attached.
It is clinically grounded couples therapy practiced through a Christian worldview.
Who this work is (and is not) for
- This work is a good fit if:
- You want real change, not just validation
- You are willing to take responsibility for your part
- You value depth over speed
- You want faith and psychology integrated with integrity
- This work may not be a good fit if:
- You are seeking a low-cost, high-frequency model
- You want therapy to side with one partner against the other
- You are looking only for communication scripts or techniques
- You are not open to examining long-standing patterns
Why private pay
- Because this work involves high responsibility, depth, and complexity, it is offered on a private-pay basis. This allows us to:
- Work without insurance constraints
- Focus on what actually promotes change
- Spend time where it matters most
- Maintain clinical and ethical integrity
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My Therapeutic Approach
My work is grounded in attachment-based and experiential therapy, approaches that focus on addressing the root emotional patterns that keep people feeling stuck in anxiety, depression, relational conflict, and unresolved pain.
Rather than working only at the level of thoughts or behaviors, this approach helps us access the core emotional and relational experiences that drive distress beneath the surface. These are often the experiences that traditional “top-down” approaches, such as cognitive behavioral techniques alone, can miss.
When deeper emotional and attachment wounds are left unaddressed, people may feel as though they are being asked to manage symptoms — to control anxiety, regulate anger, or think differently - without ever resolving the underlying source of the struggle. Over time, this can lead to frustration, self-blame, or a sense that something is fundamentally wrong with them.
As an attachment and experiential therapist, I take a “bottom-up” approach, helping clients access the nonverbal emotional centers of the brain where these core patterns are formed and stored. When emotions are experienced and processed - rather than only talked about or analyzed — real change becomes possible.
Once these emotional patterns lose their intensity, cognitive approaches become far more effective. Insight, perspective, and skill-building can then support lasting growth rather than feeling like a constant effort to manage symptoms. Therapy is not about forcing change, but about creating the conditions where change can naturally occur.
Our work together is always collaborative and tailored. During our consultation, we will clarify your goals and develop an approach that fits your history, your nervous system, and your relational needs.
Healing, Wisdom, and Integration
While we cannot change the facts of past experiences, we can reduce the emotional charge they carry. As these charges soften, clients often develop greater emotional clarity, flexibility, and depth - what might be described as true wisdom, not just coping.
Through integrative work, long-standing relational patterns, defensive strategies, and limiting beliefs often come into clearer focus. When these patterns are understood and addressed with compassion and responsibility, people find themselves living with greater freedom, meaning, and connection.
Faith Integration
As a Christian psychotherapist, I believe that deep healing occurs when psychology, neuroscience, and faith are integrated with integrity.
Over the years, I have walked alongside individuals and couples through seasons of trauma, anxiety, grief, and relational pain - helping them reconnect not only with themselves and others, but with the steady, faithful presence of God. Faith is not used as a shortcut or a spiritual bypass, but as a grounding and orienting force that supports truth, responsibility, forgiveness, and hope.
Beyond the Therapy Room
Through this work, I began creating resources to support growth beyond weekly sessions. These became The Connected Self Courses — Christ-centered programs that integrate emotional intelligence, brain science, and Biblical truth to help individuals develop self-awareness, compassion, and healthier relationships.
If you are seeking to deepen your relationship with God, strengthen your emotional health, and experience greater peace and clarity in your relationships, you are warmly invited to explore:
- Stop Losing Yourself in Relationships
- The Connected Self Course
Both are available at theconnectedself.us and theconnectedself,us/home
My hope is that these resources meet you where you are - reminding you that meaningful change is possible, and that God’s grace reaches even the places that feel most tender or unresolved.
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